In a lot of ways it is a damned if you do, damned if you don’t situation. For special events, such as the woman’s anniversary, her birthday, holiday dinners, or even just to spontaneously celebrate her achievements—like being hired for a new job or getting into graduate school, for example—the guy should offer to pay.If a guy doesn’t offer to pay they aren’t deemed ungentlemanly. And its just as confusing on the other side of the aisle for women—it sure is nice to be taken out to dinner, but in the post-feminist era, shouldn’t we be going Dutch? When the Woman Should Pay: If the woman is the one that asked the guy out, she should pay. Some women think men should automatically pay for the first date. Others think whoever asked for the date should be the one responsible for the check.Some people think they should only pay for the items they ordered.According to the eighteenth edition of Emily Post’s the rule is “for a first date at least, the person who asks should pay unless both parties agree in advance to share expenses.” But in the age of Tinder, who can be considered the initiator? Looking for some clarification, I posed the question to the staff over coffee, hoping my fellow editors could share their own thoughts on paying for dinner on a date.
In the past, the standard was the man always took care of the bill, but in 2014, when gender roles have radically changed, do the same old rules still apply? You can see how things these days have gotten a little confusing.Now, the only indicator we have of who should pay the bill is the overall mood of the date.Are you counting the minutes until the check comes?Then, I’ll do the pretend reach.”Splitting the bill Yet there are instances where it’s preferred to split the bill.One fashion editor said she goes dutch when she’s sure she never wants to see that person again.