The reasonis simple: A child's own identity is very much tied to that of his family.
When the family disintegrates, achild's sense of self is threatened, even if he maintains strong ties to both parents.
My best answer is to take your time dating after divorce and don’t introduce your new love to your kids if you are dating casually.But when she referred to their father as someone who was dating, the children were quick to insist that she was wrong."Daddy told us he won't date until we're in college," they declared."She's just a friend."Tears followed some time later, when the father asked his sons for "permission" to allow Joanne move in with him. C., author of Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way.While these are important factors to consider, they don't mean that you'll never be able to have a new relationship.By being honest with yourself, taking your time, and acknowledging your children's feelings, dating after divorce can be less stressful and more enjoyable.